Father and Son: A parent and his/her child mostly have totally different attitudes toward the same thing. [ Photo by Alex]
In this entry, I will list some objects or abstract ideas.Then I will mention how I was thinking about them as a child and how I think about them now. Do you think there will be big differences? Let's see!
Parents
As a child: My parents were responsible for bringing me food and toys. They were in charge of giving me allowance. If I had any problem, I told them.
As a father: I must rear my kids appropriately. In addition to basic needs like food and allowance, I must provide them with emotion and intangible feelings. I have to befriend and play with them.
Education
As a child: Education was all about reading, writing and doing basic math operations. Education was boring. I preferred to play rather than to attend class.
As a father: Education is one of the most aspects of life. I have to enroll my kids in the best schools that I can afford. In addition, I must follow their education closely and teach them whenever I have time to do so.
Future
As a child: The future would not be different than the present. I thought when I became an adult, I would purchase whatever I wanted and would travel everywhere. I would let my parents stay with me home.
As a father: My family future has to be planned. My wife and I should set prospective goals for our family. We must "lighten" the way for our kids and talk with them about their future.
Friendship
As a child: I wanted my friends at that time to be my friends at all times. I would sacrifice many family events just to be with them. I trusted every single friend I had.
As a father: My kids should choose their friends carefully since they will be definitely affected by those friends. My wife and I should live in a good neighborhood that has a lot of well educated kids so that we help our children have good friends.
Toys and Games
As a child: Toys and computer games were my favorite stuff. I spent a lot of time playing computer games. If I had no friend to play with, I would run a computer game and enjoy it.
As a father: I will do my best to offer my children toys and games that are enjoyable and beneficial at the same time. My wife and I will share having fun with them . We will set specific times for those games especially video games.
So, I think there is a contrast between my two different points of view. What about you? Do you think your perspective has changed since you became an adult?
Dear Cookie Baker, I find it interesting that your blogging about the family has taken you into the past to examine who you were as a child and now, who you are as a father.
ReplyDeleteI think that you will be a very kind and gentle parent. That said, I think your parents were also loving and gentle. So, I wonder more about the difference between who your parents were and you will be as a parent. What differences will you be making in your parenting that will be different from the way you were parented?
My perspective has definitely changed as an adult. Sadly, I have not had the opportunity to parent.
Dear HALLELUJAH TRUTH, I appreciate your words!
DeleteFor me, I will follow my parents in their way they parented me. However, I will also modify it a little bit so that I can keep up with the new changes in society.
Thanks again!
Really interesting topic. I think my perspective of life also have changed, since I became an adult, and I have experienced so many things that has allowed to me to think in a different way. I really like the way in which my parents raised me, so,I will try to do my best to raise my children in a good environment and with fair rules, in which they can feel comfortable.
ReplyDeleteWonderful Yani!
DeleteSo, you are lucky you have great parents. I like your phrase "with fair rules".
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